In Recollective Awareness, we suggest a more receptive stance in meditation. In other words, to let your mind be less directed in meditation. Meditators can fear this kind of freedom, worrying that they will do exactly what they usually do, daydreaming and ruminating, and question how will this be different or help. The answer is somewhat simple conceptually. You will do what you usually do, but you will also trip into more satisfying states of mind without trying so much. You will likely develop more awareness of habitual patterns and this awareness itself is transformative.
You can trust your mind in meditation. This is a really radical statement. It shouldn’t be, but it is. Meditation instructions are, in part, about how to restrain, train and correct the mind. In other approaches to meditation, people are told directly and indirectly, that the mind left to its own inclinations is naughty, even dangerous. And we know that certain mental patterns are tenacious. Some of them deeply hurt us.
What we can trust is the development of awareness. A trusting curiosity, rather than a specific instruction, helps us become more aware of what is going on in our inner world and what we are thinking, feeling and sensing. Think about it, when you are with a trusted person, you can reveal more of yourself. Over time you develop this trusting stance toward your experience. You gain greater awareness of your “usual” states of mind as you reveal more of yourself to yourself in meditation. This awareness will transform usual ways of relating to these states of mind. This trusting curiosity slowly enters our lives. We gain more awareness of what we are doing and saying throughout our days and the inner world we inhabit.
Over the years I have witnessed, in the experience of hundreds of students who practice Recollective Awareness, the transformation of very painful and destructive habits. I have also seen the development of, more natural calm and settledness in meditation and in life. Experience has proven that this process is trustworthy. And you can’t know this is trustworthy until you take this leap of faith.